My adult son lives at home and pays a small amount every month.
I was fine with it at first because he was saving money. Except he is not really saving. He is buying shoes, takeout and concert tickets while using my laundry soap like it is free rainwater.
He eats everything. Not some things. Everything. I bought sandwich meat Monday and by Tuesday there was one sad corner left in the package.
He also thinks putting one cup in the dishwasher counts as helping.
I love him. I also did not expect to still be financially supporting a grown man with better sneakers than me.
Would raising his rent be fair, or am I being greedy?
I would set a deadline and a budget together. Otherwise this becomes forever.
If he can afford concerts, he can afford detergent.
No shame in helping adult kids, but help needs a plan.
He can contribute or start buying his own lunch meat. Pick one.
Charge enough to make adulthood visible, not enough to keep him trapped.
The tiny rent only works when the tiny rent comes with actual respect.
My grown son pays rent and still eats like the refrigerator insulted him.
Raise the rent. He is saving money in theory and spending it in sneakers.